One of the worthwhile components of modern life in advanced countries is that almost everything gets researched. Happily this includes financial success. Between them, the business schools and social sciences have developed an extensive body of knowledge of the elements that create career satisfaction and financial success in a person’s life.
As it turns out and not surprisingly, career satisfaction is highest for those people who careers are in in alignment with what they consider to be their “calling” – those areas of endeavor that they are most passionate about and for which their natural skills and talents apply.
You don’t want to be trying to run a movie studio if your aptitudes, sensibilities and passions are aligned with helping the homeless, no matter the vast pay gap between the two positions.
Financial success is another and more subjective matter. Lots of people makes lots of money in some part of the economic system – often by manipulating it – and find themselves not very happy or satisfied with themselves or their lives. Lots of other people make a great deal less and still feel they have financial success because what they earn meets their needs for “sufficiency” – which is the concept that, odd as it may seem, not everyone wants to live in a mansion and have 25 cars. For a huge percentage of people – 67% – financial success is the means to have decent living standards by their own lights (for some a nice apartment near work, for others a three bedroom house) and enough security to weather economic storms, help their families where needed, and for a comfortable old age. To them that represent “sufficiency.”
The most satisfied people in the world turn out to be those that say they have both career satisfaction and financial sufficiency. Moreover, a tremendously high percentage of those people who say they have career satisfaction – 88% – also say they are financially comfortable.
With this is mind, what exactly is it that a Life Coach like myself brings to the table?
We help you identify very clearly (if you haven’t already) what your true calling is and what your gifts and skills are that support that calling.
If you are not living your true calling, we meticulously help guide you there with a step by step, doable plan.
In whatever you are doing, calling or not, we teach you how to improve your performance measurably.
We identify what emotional, psychological and real world blocks you might have to success and we teach you the very learn-able skills to get beyond them.
We teach you the most effective way to solve problems and deal with challenges that arise.
We teach you how to step-by-step envision and carry out your career goals, one building block, one door opening at a time – this so you don’t get overwhelmed. Instead you actually experience and feel a constant sense of progress and satisfaction.
We teach you the proven ways to manage your time and effort to achieve success while on your financial journey. In this regard, we teach you how to live an overall balanced and self-nurturing life so you don’t overextend and are available to perform optimally in your career.
We teach you essential people and relating skills and methods that can greatly optimize the degree of success you achieve.
We teach you essential principles of self and staff management.
We are there to guide you through challenges that may arise and provide a wise and experienced sounding board.
Because of the nature of what we Life Coaches do, most of our clientele is comprised of business people seeking success or needing to reverse failure. The bigger reality, however, is that our skills training could be universally taught by societal institutions because it can help almost everyone – and isn’t widely taught because the species is often slow to adapt its best new human development research and breakthrough learning versus how rapidly it adapts new physical technology.
To fill this gap is why some of us, as I do, offer low-cost classes in financial success and provide a sliding scale of payments to those who seek personal Life Coaching.
Our faith in Life Coaching is based on our direct experience of its positive effects – and while it’s a shame that the teachings are not yet universal, at least we Life Coaches are here to fill the gap until the society catches up on making readily available what we know and share.
You can contact me for a free 20-minute consultation at Private@JayLevin.com
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Here is a premise to ponder: That you were born psychic and intuitive – meaning you came in with extra-sensory radar that could move beyond time and space and report back with information you had not heard nor seen, tasted, smelled or touched.
Every now and then you likely get glimmers of your psychic ability in the form of “intuition.” There is something you just “know” or feel. Most of us commonly dismiss, diminish or ignore this awareness. Think of the times you have later muttered “Oh, if I had only followed my intuition about this situation (or person)!”
Given my premise that you were born psychic – meaning with access to knowledge and information which did not come through your five senses and that often go well beyond the subtle pattern-recognition phenomena of your brain – then those moments of intuition or psychic clarity would hardly be remarkable in their own right.
They stand out sharply ONLY against a general daily life in which you are out of touch with this side of yourself and instead are running on (and thinking with) other information and systems – or as science has shown, with other parts of the brain.
In fact, we know from voluminous research into psychic phenomenon by scientists and scholars associated with many leading universities and institutions, including Princeton University’s Engineering Dept., that psychic knowing is normative, not unusual. Some people have an extraordinary amount of it. Others have inklings.
Continuing with my premise, if we were all born psychic, there are profound implications to this.
- Ipso facto, you possess some yet unexplained receptors that allow you to read or detect subtle information fields.
- That those subtle information fields exist somewhere.
- That this must be an innate human ability, the degree of which varies with different people. – – – That this ability must to some degree either be quashed or encouraged by the experiences in childhood, including the manner in which you are nurtured and programmed by family, friends and community. – Because so many of us don’t retain much access to this level of knowing, it is fairly safe to conclude that most societies and child socialization processes tend to suppress rather than encourage this latent ability.
- That this ability is not something you created. It MUST have a larger and brilliantly intelligent source.
- That if this capacity is innate and lying dormant in you, there may be ways to reclaim that knowing by clearing away your programmed, reactive and emotional blocks to accessing it.
- That the blocks to it can be cleared given that some people become more intuitive and psychic as they age or as they train themselves (evolve themselves) differently.
- That the clear evolutionary possibility of the species is to evolve past the mind chatter we call “thinking” into a clear state of operating and choosing from a deeper knowing that ipso facto is connected to a universal field of all knowing.
I write this as a person who is myself highly psychic and who knows many others who are as well.
My earlier business success was helped along significantly by a clarity in specific situations that went beyond any information I possessed or ego claims I might have made for rational decision making.
My more recent success as a life coach has been consistently supported by an ability to see the very specific childhood development pattern of my clients and, even more profoundly, by a gift that I certainly didn’t create for myself: to be able to fathom the authentic nature and innate specific creativity of my clients – ie., who they would be and how they would be expressing themselves in the world if they could shed their inhibiting socialized programs and beliefs and heal their reactive emotional bodies and mind chatter.
My experience of clients happily acknowledging their inner alignment with these visions, which are akin to “soul readings,” and then moving their lives into successful alignment with these paths, has shown me the extraordinary value of operating from an inner knowing that transcends the senses and taps into a field of awareness with which mystics (and many meditators) are familiar – and which, alas, has been socialized into insignificance in the daily lives of most of us.
No surprise then that my preference is that we all learn to reclaim this gift, and my belief is the species and each of us will thrive as we do so.
Moreover, in an age of potential self-inflicted mass annihilation from nuclear or human-created ecological causes, not to reclaim this aptitude is extraordinarily dangerous, in that it leaves individual, societal and political decision-making to the more mechanical parts of our brains and therefore to the mercies of our socialized trainings – and these significantly work to disconnect us from both our true selves and from each other, whereas inner knowing is a taproot to wisdom and to connective, sane thinking in alignment with nature.
Meanwhile, on your individual life path, why remove the blocks and regain this aptitude? Because the “thinking” and chattering parts of your mind make so many mistakes in your personal life. Furthermore, by you believing that your mind activity is You, and by then giving it so much authority over your decisions, you block yourself from a remarkably different (and more success-inducing) way of knowing, understanding, deciding and moving through life.
That said, if you are like most people, you will be skeptical about psychic aptitude being latent even if you accept that it is sometimes real. It’s not inherent in you nor in most people you know, would be your thinking. My experience is different. I have taken groups of individuals who have each proclaimed to have no psychic abilities whatever, and shown them with one simple exercise how much – why look at this! – they actually know about a stranger in the room.
Typically, I take a group through a specific guided meditation and then pair the participants up with someone they don’t know. Each person then is asked to describe the way each parent of their partner treated them in childhood, and further to describe each parent’s personality. Each participant has thus far then reported to me that their partner was 100% accurate. I have done this exercise three times with a total of about 50 people.
There are two paths to more routinely accessing your inner knowing.
Meditation is one path in that it stills the chattering, judgmental mind and can allow your depth knowing, clarity and intuition to come forward.
The other path is via clearing your psychological blocks, programmed behavior and reactive emotional body sufficiently to allow your deeper self to have authority over your life guided by your inner knowing. A number of coaches and mastery trainers, myself included, also teach methods for more readily accessing your deeper knowing, intuition and psychic reality.
Here’s a relevant story: Ten years ago I met a young woman in her 20s who was a Carolyn Myss order of medical intuitive. She literally and accurately was able to tell me and others specific details of our medical history and precisely what was transpiring in our bodies in the last year in terms of wellness and distress areas.
Her energy both lifted and calmed the room. When she spoke, it was with an unusual grace of language that harbored no hint of judgment. We learned that she had a quiet mind – no mind chatter – and in fact it was clear that while she could lovingly assess another person and see his or her life patterns, she lacked the software to judge against another person or against these patterns.
In short, she was simply healed and awake from the self-limiting conditioning and True-Self suppression that occurs automatically in the child development stages of hierarchic societies, as ours is.
How did she reach this stage of grace? It wasn’t great parenting. Two years earlier she had failed at a suicide attempt – not enough pills – and was contemplating her next attempt when a friend invited her to a free demonstration workshop of a specific mind and mood management technique. Practicing it in the workshop, she found some release from her emotional pain, despair about the world and self-judgment. Back home, since she was not working (her father way paying the rent), she decided to spend all her time using the technique with every negative thought and mood. She kept getting better.
A year or so later she woke up one day with her mind completely quieted and unable to form a judgmental thought about any person or herself. Instead, there was an immense sense of loving awareness of others and an out-of-nowhere ability to see the energetic health forms of everyone she met, this wedded to an instant knowing and clarity in interpreting those forms into specific factual data about the person’s health, present and historic.
The moral of the tale: You can’t possibly experience who you really are and what you can know – what immense field of awareness you specifically can tap into – until you heal the inhibiting trauma and programming housed in your nervous system, which is what this young woman’s constant application of one specific healing technique allowed her to attain.
Or as Christ said: The Kingdom is within and you can’t know it until you choose in its favor and against your lower-level of thinking and behaving.
In modern terms, this simply means you can’t live and operate from the Kingdom within until you apply your very ancient human will and modern techniques to clearing the limiting beliefs and programmed blocks to what is innate in you.
As Huck Finn understood, there ain’t no better journey.
My own psychic abilities allow me to provide “soul readings” that identify your authentic self and help clear up major questions in your life. You can contact me for a free 20-minute consultation at Private@JayLevin.com
Every relationship has its springtime; then winter rolls around. Winter can come in a few days, a few weeks, or a few months but, with rare exception, it sure does come.
This may seem to happen for a variety of reasons – everyone has a story about why a given relationship didn’t work out – and we tend to buy into these stories. There is, however, a bigger truth at work than these narratives.
In reality, winter in relationships happens for one big reason: Very few people are trained in relationship skills. Worse, most of us deal with conflicts and tensions in relationships by relying on coping mechanisms and patterns learned in childhood and teenage years – and in most cases these patterns are actually disruptive of relationships, when not absolutely destructive of them.
This is easily remedied by two things. One is professional Life and Couples coaching. The other is an absolute willingness on your part to become a student of effective relationship skills and of the healthy way to understand and approach relationship that a coach like myself will impart to you.
It doesn’t matter the current stage or pattern of your relationships. You can be at the early dating stage, you can have experienced a lot of failed short term relationships or affairs, you can be with someone for months or years. What matters is this: If you want to have a great relationship that endures past the early romantic, sexual phase, you need to learn modern relationship skills in order to gain and keep real closeness to one another.
This learning doesn’t come automatically– it can take tens of years of trial and error and ups and downs in relationships to figure it out – and that’s why Life and Couples coaching is booming. Why takes a trillion years to accomplish a state of partnership satisfaction when, given modern research and knowledge, you can learn your way into a great relationship in a few weeks to a few months, depending on how actively you apply yourself?
First, you must learn an alternative to blaming your partner or yourself. You must be accountable for your actions and get out of “the blame game.” Blaming others doesn’t solve anything. Instead, it is important to understand why you and your partner feel and behave the way you do when challenges arise- and then learn how to resolve problems in a mature manner.
Second, arguments and disagreements can actually be resolved after you have been taught some superb and easily-learned methods to deal with them. Simply learning the techniques for creating agreement and closeness provides so much confidence that it is much easier when a challenge arises for you not to go into reaction and to take a moment instead to think about the situation rather than say or do something that will make matters worse.
Third, keeping agreements is still another core principle. Better to go back and renegotiate even the simplest agreement – “I will wash the dishes tonight” – than break trust.
Fourth, open communications are essential to prevent each person wondering what’s happening with her or his partner – a gap most of us tend to fill with projections, worries and fantasies.
While there is considerably more than these four principles to learn, a smart basic way to approach working with a Life and Couples coach is to start by accepting the real world truth – which is that most relationship difficulties, from the early dating stage on, are caused by the tension and misunderstanding created by two people who simply don’t know (because they haven’t yet been taught) how to make the other person feel safe EVEN while retaining their own autonomy.
Life and Couples Coaching can teach you that and much more. It can take you way past resentments and tensions. It can help you and your partner get out of your own ways and each other’s way so that you are each relating from a place of authentic self and tremendous acceptance.
It can, in fact, get you to an exquisite state of existence of a sort you may only have had hints of in your life.
It does this by showing you what needs to be changed and how to make those needed changes almost painlessly.
We all sometimes need good teachers and good guidance to take us past the “flaws” we think we and our partners have that show up in relationships. A skilled Life and Couples coach can be the ideal person to turn to in times of turmoil, because that’s how you can discover that such flaws almost always result only from everyone’s backwards original education in the most crucial of human experiences – in how we are to relate to each other.
By contrast, a Life and Couples coach like myself can teach you truly effective, very neat and satisfying relating skills. For most people, the sooner you learn, the sooner your relationship and life can improve.
You can contact me for a free 20-minute consultation at Private@JayLevin.com